Why Grieve When You Have The Six Ingredients?

The author of Ease After Difficulty mentioned the story of a wise person who was afflicted by calamity. His brothers went to him and tried to console him over his loss. He answered, “I have put together a remedy that is composed of six ingredients.”

They asked him what those ingredients were, and he answered:

  1. The first is to have a firm trust in Allah, the Almighty. 
  2. The second is resigning oneself to the inescapable fact that everything that is decreed will happen and will follow its unalterable course.
  3. The third is that patience has no substitute for the positive effect it has on the afflicted.
  4. The fourth is an unwavering belief in the implications of this phrase: “Without showing forbearance, what will I accomplish?”
  5. The fifth is to ask oneself: “Why should I be a willful party to my own destruction?”
  6. The sixth is knowing that from one hour to the next, circumstances are transformed and difficulties vanish. 

Do not grieve if others inflict upon you harm or pain, or if you are oppressed or are the subject of envy.

Shaykh al-Islam (Ibn Taymiyah) said: The believer does not seek quarrel or revenge, nor does he find blame or fault in others. Do not despair if you face obstacles or problems; rather, forbear and be patient.

O time, if you have any of that left over, From which you bring down the worthy, then let me have it. 

Patience, as opposed to anxiety, bears the fruit of comfort; and those who do not voluntarily show patience will have it forced upon them by circumstances. 

Al-Mutanabbi said:

Time has showered me with trouble until
The arrows on my heart have formed a cover,
That now when I am struck with an arrow,
The blade of it strikes into the shaft of another,
Now I live without a care for troubles,
Since I have not profited by caring.

Don’t be distressed if someone refuses you a favour, or if you are frowned upon, or if the miserly person refuses you.

If, by refraining from asking others, you prevent the sweat of humiliation from pouring down your face, then a wooden hut or a tent of cloth is better for you than a spacious house and a beautiful garden – material things that will only bring you worry and disquiet.

Tribulation is similar to sickness; it must run its course before it goes away, and those who are hasty in attempting to remove it often cause it to increase. It is imperative that those who are afflicted be patient; they must wait with hope for relief, and they must be persistent in their prayers.

The fundamentals of happiness – Verses to reflect on

“And never give up hope of Allah’s mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah’s mercy, except the people who disbelieve.”

(Yusuf 12: 87)

“And who despairs of the mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?”

(Al-Hijr 15: 56)

“Surely, Allah’s mercy is [ever] near unto the good-doers.”

(Al-A’raf 7: 56)

“You know not, it may be that Allah will afterward bring some new thing to pass.”

(At-Talaq 65:1)

“It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.”

(Al-Baqarah 2: 216)

“Allah is very Gracious and Kind to His slaves.”

(Asy-Syuura 42: 19)

“..And My mercy embraces all things.”

(Al-A’raf 7: 156)

“Be not sad [or afraid], surely Allah is with us.”

(At-Taubah 9: 40) 

“Remember] when you sought help from your Lord and He answered you.”

(Al-Anfal 8:9)

“And He it is Who sends down the rain after they have despaired, and spreads abroad His mercy”

(Asy-Syuura 42: 28)

“And they used to call on Us with hope and fear, and used to humble themselves before Us.”

(Al-Anbiyaa’ 21: 90)

Source: Don’t Be Sad by Dr Aid Al-Qarni


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